I point my ship in the direction of people who inspire me. They push. Motivate me. Move me. They make me want to be better. They act like a true north. They are a star shining brightest in the blackest of nights. I have been lucky to count a great number of people as friends, acquaintances and people I’ve never met, but who have unknowingly passed wisdom onto me, as mentors in some form or fashion. My hope is that I’ve been able to provide the same experience to those who needed it.
Those who lift me up deserve acknowledgement. Those who impact us need to be told. The act of filling people up should be a two way street. So, for all of those who’ve ever written a note, sent an email, called or invited me out for drinks, thank you. These experiences changed me. While I may not have been the best at expressing my gratitude, you should know your lessons are kept to this day. In my darkest times, you were a true north. For that, I will be eternally grateful.
We as men have to do a better job at laying praise at the feet of those who move us. I have to do better. Too often, our pride gets in the way. The shame of asking for help must be retired. We are human. We will fail. On occasion, we will need someone to pick us up. Be full of thanksgiving when someone offers to be there for you.
But, let’s keep in mind the world is changing. We are stuck in an endless feedback loop. We are whores for attention. Let’s not confuse real friendship and mentorship for the drive-by likes, comments, shares and retweets that plague our modern world. Real relationships are nurtured in the real world; face to face. Only here, can you find your true north. We all deserve a true north.
Instead of the feedback loop, let’s shine a light on those who need it most. Let’s pay forward the impact we have received. We should foster real relationships. We should seek out mentors. When and if possible, we should help point others in the right direction.
Thanks for entering my world,
-Nathan