Maintaining a romantic relationship may be the greatest challenge of my life. It is also a challenge that brings me great joy and satisfaction. The work required to keep this ship afloat often feels like a battle against the forces of hell. There are moments when I have found myself looking for a lifeboat in anticipation of a simpler and easier path. Staying behind and working on the ship with my partner, despite the hardships, felt necessary because of the hope I have placed in our final destination.  

In that work, I have discovered some truth. Relationships are seesaws in motion. Sometimes, your legs are kicking the summer air, and at other times, they are planted firmly on the ground. Sometimes, your partner needs you to support the relationship, so they may prosper. At other times, you will need their strength to move forward. While the goal is some sense of equilibrium, we should all realize life doesn’t work that way. Romantic, platonic, or familial, the type of relationship makes no difference, because no matter the type we will be called upon to be the strong one, and we will need someone to lend a hand.  

In my relationship, my role has changed hundreds of times. I have been a counselor, coach, motivator, financial planner, the romantic, planner, future forecaster, psychologist, philosopher, etc. I have also needed counseling, coaching, motivation, financial help, wooing, guidance, visioning, mental health breaks, and wisdom. This is the essence of what it means to be in a relationship. If they are to succeed, there must be a willingness to give and take freely. Without this adaptability, they will fail. They will leave you looking for open waters and battles worth fighting.  

Be good to each other,  

Nathan 

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